How You Approach Problems Can Cause Your Anxiety Attacks
Posted by Sylvia on October 25th, 2008
It’s hard to believe that everyone, at some point in their lives, haven’t experienced mild anxiety attacks when facing their problems. Severe situations that do not seem to have a solution are the worst.
For some, the anxiety is short lived. They find solutions quickly, regardless of how impossible they seem.
They are able to do this because they approach their problems in a certain way. You have four options when you approach your problems.
- Consent to it and accept defeat and quit right from the start.
- Resent it. This approach can make you tough, hard, cold and bitter.
- Find solutions. This is a much more productive approach.
- Prevent the problems. This isn’t always possible or easy, but it is the obvious best approach.
Let’s look at each one a little closer.
Consent to it
This is the absolute worst approach because it can lead in only one direction – to a life of negativity and depression. In essence, you give up all hope of happiness. Rather than fighting, you give up, but the problems don’t go away. And neither does the anxiety.
Resent it
At the very least, this approach triggers some sort of response, albeit negative. Resentment leads to you becoming tough, hard, cold and bitter. Anger is a common outlet for your frustration. Your self pity drives your friends and family away, leaving you to a life of loneliness and isolation.
Find solutions
This is positive thinking, because you are looking for a way out of the predicament. You become creative and energized which brings positive forces back to you, along with solutions.
You might have heard about positive thinking before, but it’s not what many people think it is. It’s not about telling yourself every day that things will work out, or thinking positive thoughts. It’s about working positively towards your goal, whether it’s to resolve problems or find success in your life.
In the majority of cases, you’ll find that your problems stem from your own actions in the past.
Perhaps you didn’t work hard enough and lost your job. Maybe your attitude caused people to turn against you. You might have made bad investment decisions or didn’t take time to really investigate your options.
If you’re the type to live day by day, never thinking of tomorrow, you will not be ready when emergencies arise. Or perhaps you didn’t take the initiative to improve your education to get a better job.
4. Prevent them
In most cases, you can prevent problems from occurring. Or at the very least, preventing it from occurring again. If you lost your income and teetered on the economic edge, make sure it doesn’t happen again by taking precautions. Make very penny work for you.
Some people think that saving means putting a large sum of money away every month, but that’s not necessary. If you save all your pocket change at the end of the day, you’ll be surprised how quickly it adds up.
If you’re working in a career that fluctuates, make plans to prepare yourself for a better, more stable career. This can mean going back to school, taking night, weekend or correspondence courses. Do it while you have an income to pay for it.
Focus on these last two choices and you will soon live a more positive, peaceful and secure life. Your anxiety attacks will be minimized if not removed altogether.